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MALE SEXUAL MYTHS: FANTASIES ABOUT PENIS – “HARD AS STEEL” AND “IT IS A BATTERING RAM OF MUSCLES”

HARD AS STEEL: Our culture makes all men believe that their penis when erect should be as hard as steel or like a rock. Men are deeply conscious about the hardness of their organ. They usually hold the erect penis in their hand and feel anxious if the hardness is not to their satisfaction and the penis becomes soft as the erection dies down. The penis is not meant for drilling holes into steel columns—it has merely to enter the vaginal cavity. It may surprise you to know that even a semi-erect or a soft penis can get into a vagina of a woman. (See Chapter 14, 'Impotence'.) A certain degree of hardness, however, is necessary to deflorate a virgin. Otherwise women do not relish rods of steel or ramming machines during intercourse. In fact, many find it uncomfortable or even painful. Stephen Vizinczey vividly brings out this theme in In Praise of Older Women: 'Don't leave' she said when we first came, 'I like to feel him small.'

IT IS A BATTERING RAM OF MUSCLES: Even medical writers and novelists have fallen into this trap! Dr. R.P. Sethi, in his Increase Your Sexual Power and Efficiency, says this about the penis: 'It is a specialised item in medical science and is made up of muscles.' The penis is not 'made' of voluntary muscular tissue. If it were so, we could have contracted the penis and made it erect with our will power as we contract the biceps in our arms. There would then be no impotency and not the slightest necessity for this book! In her eternal wisdom, Nature has made the penis of hollow spongy tissue which is not under the direct control of our will. There are no muscles in the penis, except the pelvic muscles at its base which with correct exercises improve sexual performance in both sexes.

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